Employee Testimonials

Let Me Tell You What It Is Really Like

“It takes a special person to be a hospice nurse.”  I hear that a lot when I meet people.  Then they tend to turn away, perhaps afraid to linger too long near “the angel of death.”  I often wish I could follow them and say, “Wait, let me tell you what it’s really like.  Let me tell you what a privilege it is to walk with a family through such an intensely private and emotional time.  Let me tell you that contrary to popular opinion, we don’t help people die.  We help them live each day to the fullest with as little pain as possible; with as little anxiety as possible.”

I love my job.  I love that palliative care—which focuses on pain and symptom management and care of the whole person— is finally recognized as cutting edge, specialized medicine.  I love the autonomy my job provides.  I love the fact that I need to know more as a hospice nurse than I ever did as a hospital nurse.  I love being able to call a physician to make recommendations and, because I have worked hard to build a relationship and a reputation for sound judgment, have him or her say, “Whatever you think is fine with me.” 

Sure, saying good-bye is always sad.  But, when you hear from a family that their grief is eased because their loved one had a peaceful death – well, there’s no feeling to compare to that.  Am I special?   I don’t think so.  That designation is reserved for those who face each day they have left, no matter how few, with dignity and courage… still able to embrace life… still willing to love and be loved.  Let me tell you, that’s special!

Jill DeHoog, RN, OCN, CHPN, Senior Director of Clinical Services for Homecare